>>3089Yours sounds like cringe looping, how did it even help? If you kept adding to it.
I did that too though…
>reading books to try to learn better social skillsI've never did any studies on this.
What helped me to stop stuttering and be more fluid in talks was finding people that want to talk while playing games together.
These were limited to what was going in-game but did the trick.
>social skillsI think that it all boils down to listening and adding to the topic if it's anything valuable.
People love to talk, it's enough to just show interest and the rest goes naturally.
(if you are not well informed about topic it's best to just ask more question related to that than pretending to enjoy/know something)
These 2 things greatly helped me.
Ah and the friendly not monotnous tone + smile.
But I don't have any tips since it was my defensive mechanism from the start.
>practice them on cashiersThat was my starting point, every time I paid added "maybe I will find some spare change, got it there you go/oh unfortunately have none, next time I will remember to bring some -> thank you, have a good day"
It's not much but adds up.
Even better if you go to clothing store where employees are meant to be helpful.
Just say random shit about clothing, it gives you much broader topics to shitpost irl.
Also visiting relatives, noticed it being most chill experience.
You don't need to make all talks about yourself - just highlighting it, as I thought that's how thing are supposed to go.
>cringeThese situations only hold great value in your mind. You just need to realize that.
Also it's possible to accept them and not cringe.
SPOILER: GIGA CRINGE just to show that it is achievable.
shitting on the kitchen floor due to medication interaction, then being woken up to clean it up. IT WASN'T EVEN FAMILY HOME so that multiplied greatly hahabeing escorted by police wearing only kinda gay panties, in winter's snow barefoot, to psychward, after pissing myself.It troubled me for years, but I completely accepted these happenings. And now don't feel even any shame writting about it.
Aware of how fucked up these situations are but other than learning from it there is nothing to be done. So why bother being emotional if it can't be undone.
Also don't be harsh on yourself if you say some dumb shit while trying to get better at talks.
It's part of learning process, everyone makes mistakes.
Best to look at them as a checkpoints on your way to become verbal chad.
So far every issue you told me about is 1:1 me.
So if you have anything to discuss, don't be shy.
We might figure out something out.
